Playground name-calling, constant teasing and being terrorized online are just a few examples of bullying. We all know that bullying can lead to damaged self-esteem, a hatred for school and depression.
As parents we try to be someone that our children feel comfortable confiding in, whilst not being pushy and giving them their space. More often than not children feel apprehensive when it comes to talking about bullying – especially to their parents. Children often don’t want their mom and dad to worry.
At Care.com we know that having a network of adults who support the upbringing of your child has endless advantages. As an online resource matching families with childcare we feel there are a lot of positives about having a nanny or beloved babysitter in your child’s life – they can bond with children differently.
That’s why we have compiled these 6 tips for parents to more effectively use their babysitters to banish bullying:
Hire a role model
When interviewing a nanny, hire someone with similar interests as your child. Consider the gender, athleticism and similar personal challenges. Think of this person as a mentor and friend who can boost their confidence and teach them to shrug off the nasty people in life.
Use their eyes & ears
Your nanny will likely be the one picking your child up from school or soccer practice, and greeting them at their most talkative point in the day. Be sure that your nanny stays alert to your child’s social interactions and mood. She can also use her nanny network to learn what the other childcare providers know.
Tap into their social networks
Your child might restrict you on Facebook, but give their babysitter full access. If you think something is up, ask a social-savvy sitter to search for how your child might be talked about online. Here’s how to learn more about being a plugged-in parent.
Find new friends
Work with your after-school sitter to set up activities and playgroups outside of town. Consider out-of-the-norm extra-curriculars that can allow your child to thrive in new ways.
Get a plan together
Sit down with your childcare and child (no matter what age) and decide how to confront the bullying together. It’s important to let your child know they have control — and allies.
Prevent bullying by raising a kind kid. Teach your child to befriend the new student, to speak up to bullies, to stand up for those being taunted. Make sure this is the goal of everyone caring for your child.